Thank you, Tracy. I appreciate your thoughtful comments. It does appear that parents with loss are connecting with my writing. Some say it resonates with how they feel. I am glad that others find validation and maybe some comfort. We can’t predict when will get a sign from our deceased ones, but it’s magical when we do. thanks for reading. I looked at your site and I’m going to read somebody’s posts. Thanks for being on my radar.
I have forwarded your site to a friend who lost her daughter. And I remain grateful for each time I receive signs from my father and those I’ve loved and lost.
Thank you for sharing Laura with us and thank you for such a well-written look into being a bereaved parent. I lost my son T.J. 3 years, 11 months, and 11 days ago. I help lead a support group for bereaved parents here at work and will definitely share this!
Happy belated Birthday Susan and Laura. Thank you for sharing your beautiful and poignant thoughts with those who cannot know this grief. My sincere condolences for the loss of your daughter. I pray you continue to feel her presence and find comfort in the signs you receive. I’m certain your writing and connection with other parents who have lost children means a great deal. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Susan - I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter Laura - may her memory be a blessing. You are keeping her alive with your writing and the people you touch. My son Henry died two years ago (this week) and I am trying to live a life that will honor him. I look forward to reading more of your articles here.
I read your story, “I hugged my son goodbye…”. it was hard to read, because I’m devastated for you and your family. There really are no words but I will try anyway. I am terribly sorry for your deep loss of Henry.
Yes to trying to live life that honors your son Henry. I try to do the same. It’s still so early in your grief, so don’t pressure yourself. You are allowed to fall apart and throw a few pity parties because that’s what humans do. Our children are in a different place of evolved spirituality but we are humans, who feel the depths of sadness. Don’t press yourself too hard-we can’t always rise to the occasion and be superstar grievers, though I too feel that honoring our heavenly children by living a purposeful lives is important. I think it’s what my daughter would want - but in good time, and we are allowed to slip.
This motivated me to dig myself out of despair. I felt that Laura‘s soul might be weighed down by too much sadness, and I want her to be proud of me. We are also their legacy now. I’ll be thinking of you this week on the anniversary of your son’s passing.
You are an openhearted and compelling writer. Every post is authentic and crafted with care. This post on Laura’s birthday is particularly moving and undoubtedly supportive and comforting to other bereaved parents.
We all need to read your brave words and reflections. Parents who face the enduring grief of losing a child need special lovingkindness.
Thank you for sharing such a tender and meaningful post.🌻
Happy belated birthday to you, Susan, and Happy Birthday, Laura. I'm imagining sitting alongside you as you read this, Susan. Side hugs, and thank you for writing this. I see you and other Bereaved Parents, more now. xoxo
Birthdays carry such mixed feelings. I allowed my heart and mind to go where it wanted and needed to go when I wrote this. Thank you for finding some meaning in it and for feeling that you learned more about parental griefgreif from me.
This is a beautiful, heartbreaking and accurate description of our journey. I have been on this particular road only for the last two years, but am healing and moving forward bit by bit thanks to my connection with my daughter, Sakshi.
I am so very sorry for your loss of Sakshi. So beautiful that you found a way to forge a spiritual connection with your daughter. I remember those painful early years of loss well. I wish you ease as you move through the seasons. My wish is that you feel the love of your daughter with you and receive support. Thank you for reaching out to me. I believe you found me through Neena, who is such a beautiful and healing soul. We all share a bond together on this painful and sacred journey.
Dear Susan, you are so right. It is a sacred journey. I have found that this experience has in a way cleansed me off a lot of bullshit and left a simpler and cleaner version behind. I do feel that we have all be called upon to do this hard service for a reason. I also have a question for you. I hope you don't mind my asking it here. Does it get harder or easier to maintain the connection we have with our child as the years pass by? And yes, I found your Substack thanks to Neena.
Binu, The connection we have with our “transitioned children” (Neena’s phrase) is so individual and like all things grief, not a linear road. I can just say that in the beginning when I was so late with deep sorrow, it was harder With Laura and then I lifted some of it could feel her presence more. spiritual type person once told me that we have to get on a similar vibration as our loved ones who have passed into a higher state of consciousness and of being and we need to get closer to that that’s all individual thing, but we go through a lot of periods of sorrow throughout our lives, especially for me. You have 23 years. You’re going to have a lot of dips in your journey just for your own life as well and things that you go through that bring you down sometimes Laura will come pop up in a sign and cheer me up, I need to conjure her up on my own by trying to get to a better place of spirituality. It’s all very different and any different time. I actually am going to be writing about science from Laura because there have been many profound occurrences where I felt that she was reaching me and helping me and just saying hello. I feel that sometimes I’m the one who needs to reach out to her to say hello and give her a sign. Maybe I’ll be writing this very soon now that you’re bringing it up. Thank you for reminding me. It’s been in my mind for a long time . Do not feel burdened by the fact that I tell you that it does get better overtime and the weight becomes later. We do have other things in life that causes grief and loss and that’s sort of what I was trying to point out. There are many things in life that all people feel that burning them and for us they might hit us harder and become what I called the secondary losses in my article . Love to you and keep the faith
I feel strongly in my heart that our children want us to be happy, and that’s not an easy task, but it’s something to strive for.. I have learned to accept times and periods of sadness and sorrow because we are human and we are earthly beings and we’re not 109% spiritual beings yet and sadness is also part of us D and we have to accept that as well . There may be large gaps of time when we don’t get signs or a strong presence from our child, but this will come around again and yes- it is consistent throughout the long-term, so have faith keep hope alive. read a post I wrote around Mother’s Day to see how I feel. Laura reached me and brought me joy through a flower.https://susanfuscofazio.substack.com/p/on-mothering-what-i-have-learned?r=z9fo9
Dear Laura, thank you for the above reply! I agree - our children want us to be happy and to thrive. I have been fortunate in that within a week of her crossing over, Sakshi started sending me signs and visiting me in my dreams. Since then, clinical hypnotherapy (first as a client and now as a practitioner), writing and meditation have helped me immensely. The idea of living out the rest of my life without her is still this huge wall looming over me. Like you had mentioned in your post, I do hope and pray that it is not too long. But however long it is, I hope I can do my best to make her proud. And I hope Sakshi continues to reach out and send signs as they really do help me navigate life.
I will read your Mother's Day post. Thanks for sharing.
no worries, maybe you are also writing to Laura too. I know, I am unhappy that we can not make any changes/ for some strange reason they don’t allow us a chance to edit. I made many mistakes/typos in the response I had to you before this. I may decide to delete it and rewrite it because I’m very unhappy with it sitting there with so many mistakes.
Happy Birthday Laura 💜. Thank you for sharing a beautiful reflection and poignant reminder to mainstream society about treading more considerately with grief. I am sure Laura is around you 🥰😊🙏
Your support means a lot to me. We can only hope that when we write, our words reach and touch others in someway and that we make a difference. Thank you for being a kindred soul on this journey.
First-I’m really sorry for the loss of your son TJ. It’s really good that you’re helping others by running some bereavement groups.
I look forward to reading what you end up writing on your Substack. My advice is to just start- the rest will pour out of you - like the marbles scattered on the floor, or maybe neat and tidy; either way I’d love to read it.
Thank you for your comments about my writing and my story about Laura and loss. I didn’t know that I would be a good writer. It kind of happened after she passed away. Laura was a writer and wanted to become a published writer when she grew up.
I think she gifted me the ability to write better. I think our deceased loved ones can impart us with one of their special talents or personality traits.
Do you think that your son gifted you one of his abilities after he passed?
Thank you, Tracy. I appreciate your thoughtful comments. It does appear that parents with loss are connecting with my writing. Some say it resonates with how they feel. I am glad that others find validation and maybe some comfort. We can’t predict when will get a sign from our deceased ones, but it’s magical when we do. thanks for reading. I looked at your site and I’m going to read somebody’s posts. Thanks for being on my radar.
I have forwarded your site to a friend who lost her daughter. And I remain grateful for each time I receive signs from my father and those I’ve loved and lost.
Thank you for sharing Laura with us and thank you for such a well-written look into being a bereaved parent. I lost my son T.J. 3 years, 11 months, and 11 days ago. I help lead a support group for bereaved parents here at work and will definitely share this!
Happy belated Birthday Susan and Laura. Thank you for sharing your beautiful and poignant thoughts with those who cannot know this grief. My sincere condolences for the loss of your daughter. I pray you continue to feel her presence and find comfort in the signs you receive. I’m certain your writing and connection with other parents who have lost children means a great deal. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
Susan - I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter Laura - may her memory be a blessing. You are keeping her alive with your writing and the people you touch. My son Henry died two years ago (this week) and I am trying to live a life that will honor him. I look forward to reading more of your articles here.
Dear Elizabeth,
I read your story, “I hugged my son goodbye…”. it was hard to read, because I’m devastated for you and your family. There really are no words but I will try anyway. I am terribly sorry for your deep loss of Henry.
Yes to trying to live life that honors your son Henry. I try to do the same. It’s still so early in your grief, so don’t pressure yourself. You are allowed to fall apart and throw a few pity parties because that’s what humans do. Our children are in a different place of evolved spirituality but we are humans, who feel the depths of sadness. Don’t press yourself too hard-we can’t always rise to the occasion and be superstar grievers, though I too feel that honoring our heavenly children by living a purposeful lives is important. I think it’s what my daughter would want - but in good time, and we are allowed to slip.
This motivated me to dig myself out of despair. I felt that Laura‘s soul might be weighed down by too much sadness, and I want her to be proud of me. We are also their legacy now. I’ll be thinking of you this week on the anniversary of your son’s passing.
Please feel free to reach out by email: susanffartwork@gmail.com
You are an openhearted and compelling writer. Every post is authentic and crafted with care. This post on Laura’s birthday is particularly moving and undoubtedly supportive and comforting to other bereaved parents.
We all need to read your brave words and reflections. Parents who face the enduring grief of losing a child need special lovingkindness.
Thank you for sharing such a tender and meaningful post.🌻
Happy belated birthday to you, Susan, and Happy Birthday, Laura. I'm imagining sitting alongside you as you read this, Susan. Side hugs, and thank you for writing this. I see you and other Bereaved Parents, more now. xoxo
Dear Victoria, 🌸💜
Birthdays carry such mixed feelings. I allowed my heart and mind to go where it wanted and needed to go when I wrote this. Thank you for finding some meaning in it and for feeling that you learned more about parental griefgreif from me.
This is a beautiful, heartbreaking and accurate description of our journey. I have been on this particular road only for the last two years, but am healing and moving forward bit by bit thanks to my connection with my daughter, Sakshi.
Dear Binu,
I am so very sorry for your loss of Sakshi. So beautiful that you found a way to forge a spiritual connection with your daughter. I remember those painful early years of loss well. I wish you ease as you move through the seasons. My wish is that you feel the love of your daughter with you and receive support. Thank you for reaching out to me. I believe you found me through Neena, who is such a beautiful and healing soul. We all share a bond together on this painful and sacred journey.
Dear Susan, you are so right. It is a sacred journey. I have found that this experience has in a way cleansed me off a lot of bullshit and left a simpler and cleaner version behind. I do feel that we have all be called upon to do this hard service for a reason. I also have a question for you. I hope you don't mind my asking it here. Does it get harder or easier to maintain the connection we have with our child as the years pass by? And yes, I found your Substack thanks to Neena.
Binu, The connection we have with our “transitioned children” (Neena’s phrase) is so individual and like all things grief, not a linear road. I can just say that in the beginning when I was so late with deep sorrow, it was harder With Laura and then I lifted some of it could feel her presence more. spiritual type person once told me that we have to get on a similar vibration as our loved ones who have passed into a higher state of consciousness and of being and we need to get closer to that that’s all individual thing, but we go through a lot of periods of sorrow throughout our lives, especially for me. You have 23 years. You’re going to have a lot of dips in your journey just for your own life as well and things that you go through that bring you down sometimes Laura will come pop up in a sign and cheer me up, I need to conjure her up on my own by trying to get to a better place of spirituality. It’s all very different and any different time. I actually am going to be writing about science from Laura because there have been many profound occurrences where I felt that she was reaching me and helping me and just saying hello. I feel that sometimes I’m the one who needs to reach out to her to say hello and give her a sign. Maybe I’ll be writing this very soon now that you’re bringing it up. Thank you for reminding me. It’s been in my mind for a long time . Do not feel burdened by the fact that I tell you that it does get better overtime and the weight becomes later. We do have other things in life that causes grief and loss and that’s sort of what I was trying to point out. There are many things in life that all people feel that burning them and for us they might hit us harder and become what I called the secondary losses in my article . Love to you and keep the faith
I feel strongly in my heart that our children want us to be happy, and that’s not an easy task, but it’s something to strive for.. I have learned to accept times and periods of sadness and sorrow because we are human and we are earthly beings and we’re not 109% spiritual beings yet and sadness is also part of us D and we have to accept that as well . There may be large gaps of time when we don’t get signs or a strong presence from our child, but this will come around again and yes- it is consistent throughout the long-term, so have faith keep hope alive. read a post I wrote around Mother’s Day to see how I feel. Laura reached me and brought me joy through a flower.https://susanfuscofazio.substack.com/p/on-mothering-what-i-have-learned?r=z9fo9
Dear Laura, thank you for the above reply! I agree - our children want us to be happy and to thrive. I have been fortunate in that within a week of her crossing over, Sakshi started sending me signs and visiting me in my dreams. Since then, clinical hypnotherapy (first as a client and now as a practitioner), writing and meditation have helped me immensely. The idea of living out the rest of my life without her is still this huge wall looming over me. Like you had mentioned in your post, I do hope and pray that it is not too long. But however long it is, I hope I can do my best to make her proud. And I hope Sakshi continues to reach out and send signs as they really do help me navigate life.
I will read your Mother's Day post. Thanks for sharing.
I am so sorry! I just noticed. I meant Dear Susan, but am unable to edit the reply now!
no worries, maybe you are also writing to Laura too. I know, I am unhappy that we can not make any changes/ for some strange reason they don’t allow us a chance to edit. I made many mistakes/typos in the response I had to you before this. I may decide to delete it and rewrite it because I’m very unhappy with it sitting there with so many mistakes.
Happy Birthday Laura 💜. Thank you for sharing a beautiful reflection and poignant reminder to mainstream society about treading more considerately with grief. I am sure Laura is around you 🥰😊🙏
Thank you Simone🙏❤️
Your support means a lot to me. We can only hope that when we write, our words reach and touch others in someway and that we make a difference. Thank you for being a kindred soul on this journey.
Thank you Susan, yes l hope so too. Pleased the universe has connected us through this community. Sending you love and peace 💜
Hello Roger,
First-I’m really sorry for the loss of your son TJ. It’s really good that you’re helping others by running some bereavement groups.
I look forward to reading what you end up writing on your Substack. My advice is to just start- the rest will pour out of you - like the marbles scattered on the floor, or maybe neat and tidy; either way I’d love to read it.
Thank you for your comments about my writing and my story about Laura and loss. I didn’t know that I would be a good writer. It kind of happened after she passed away. Laura was a writer and wanted to become a published writer when she grew up.
I think she gifted me the ability to write better. I think our deceased loved ones can impart us with one of their special talents or personality traits.
Do you think that your son gifted you one of his abilities after he passed?
Beautiful Susan… let’s meet soon. Trudy